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7 toolsListen to this episode from The World's First Podcast with Erin & Sara Foster on Spotify. This week, Erin and Sara sit down with psychotherapist Jessica Baum, the founder of Be Self-full, and the author of "Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love." They discuss the different insecure attachment styles and how we develop them, why it's important to have compassion for yourself, how to begin to heal, and more.Executive Producers: Erin Foster, Sara Foster, and Allison BresnickAssociate Producer: Montana McBirneyAudio Engineer: Josh WindischThis episode is sponsored by: Open (withopen.com/FOSTER)Jenni Kayne (Jennikayne.com PROMO CODE: FOSTER15)Exponent Beauty (exponentbeauty.com PROMO CODE: FOSTERS20)Vegamour (vegamour.com/foster PROMO CODE: foster)Boll & Branch (bollandbranch.com PROMO CODE: FOSTER15)BetterHelp (betterhelp.com/foster)
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Listen to this episode from On Attachment on Spotify. In today's episode, we're talking all about why avoidant partners tend to struggle with defensiveness. While defensiveness is far from being the exclusive domain of avoidant attachment, many people will attest to the fact that avoidant folks are often quick to become defensive in response to relational tension or ruptures - and that this can form a key piece in the negative cycle of many anxious-avoidant relationships.We'll cover:why defensiveness is a natural response to feeling attackedhow avoidant partners can perceive relational needs and concerns as personal failingsavoidant attachment and emotional expressivenesshow you can start to relate to a partner's defensiveness with greater compassion rather than judgment and blame✨ Click here to join the 28-day Secure Self Challenge ✨Further Links & Resources Join the waitlist for Healing Anxious Attachment ⭐️ Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment Visit my website
Listen to this episode from The Art of Accomplishment on Spotify. We are taught how to defend ourselves from a very young age. But few of us are taught the pragmatic power of love. We build a series of walls we can put up whenever someone makes us uncomfortable. What if those very walls create a drag-on life that slows down our dreams? What if love is an easy-to-use tool that turns all that friction into forward momentum?"Love can't really exist without empowerment. You can be fond of. You can be scared of losing, but to actually love in a way that is beyond you, that is a deep welcoming, the only way you can deeply welcome, is to feel deeply empowered to not be worried of the result."We are taught how to defend ourselves from a very young age, but few of us are taught the pragmatic power of love. We build a series of walls we can put up whenever someone makes us uncomfortable. What if those very walls create a drag on life that slows down our dreams? What if love is an easy-to-use tool that turns all that friction into forward momentum? **Full transcript can be found here: https://tinyurl.com/AoAEpisode16 Learn more about our free workshops and online courses at artofaccomplishment.comWe invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at view.life/explore
'A must read' - Esther Perel 'My relationship bible' - Gabby Bernstein 'Releases our capacity to be fully alive in relationships' - Bessel van der Kolk Most loving relationships fail, not because of communication or empathy breakdown, but because we unknowingly burden our partner with the task of caring for disowned and unloved parts of ourselves, our 'internal family'. Building on the revolutionary Internal Family Systems model of therapy, Dr Richard Schwartz reveals how to reconnect and foster a healthy dialogue with your wise and compassionate 'Self' and your partner. You Are the One You've Been Waiting For will equip you with the essential tools needed to build trust and connection with the one you love.
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Listen to this episode from Almost Adulting with Violet Benson on Spotify. Hey Besties! Today, we get to listen to the second half of Violetta’s conversation with Sarah Baldwin. Sarah is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Trauma-informed Life Coach dedicated to supporting individuals in understanding their reactions, feelings, and patterns, emphasizing that these are not indicative of anything wrong, but rather everything being right with the person. Violetta and Sarah will dig deep into what it means to have an anxious or avoidant attachment style, how to overcome it, and how it can potentially affect your current and future relationships. Discover how your nervous system is the puppeteer of your relationships, unravel the mysteries of anxious and avoidant attachments, and get the lowdown on why opposites attract but might not always stick. Learn the golden rules of relationship arguments, decode the dynamic dance between different attachment styles, and embrace the bravest steps towards love. Whether you're anxiously engaged or coolly detached, it's time to understand, set boundaries, and find out why, in the game of love, we're all wonderfully complex.If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!Today’s Sponsors:Nutrafol - Find out why over 4,000 healthcare professionals recommend Nutrafol for healthier hair. Visit https://nutrafol.com/ and use promo code ADULTINGEpisode Highlights:00:00 Intro00:24 How does your nervous system affect your relationships?02:04 How does Anxious Attachment style develop?03:47 How does Avoidant Attachment style develop?05:18 What should you do if you have avoidant attachment?10:39 What should you do if you have anxious attachment? 12:39 Anxious and avoidant attachment attract each other17:22 The golden rule: Two dysregulated people can’t solve an argument20:41 Most common dynamic between anxious and avoidant people21:37 We can be both avoidant and anxious24:03 Why both avoidantly and anxiously attached people are often misunderstood 28:14 We need to learn to understand each other30:04 A lot of us feel we’re so f*cked up35:46 What is the bravest thing an avoidant person can do in a relationship?37:26 Can an avoidant and anxiously attached person have a relationship?40:56 Fear and excitement have the same somatic sensory response44:32 The people we need to set boundaries will resist those boundaries the most48:12 When to know that the other person is not yet safe for you to be in a relationship with55:16 We all make sense and there’s nothing wrong with usConnect with Sarah on:https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/ https://www.facebook.com/Sarahbaldwincoaching/ https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/ Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.