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3 toolsListen to this episode from The Peter Attia Drive on Spotify. View the Show Notes Page for This Episode Become a Member to Receive Exclusive Content Episode Description: Paul Conti, a returning guest on The Drive, is a practicing psychiatrist and recent author of Trauma: The Invisible Epidemic: How Trauma Works and How We Can Heal From It, in which he offers valuable insights on healing from trauma. In this episode, Paul explains how his personal experience with trauma and his many years seeing patients have shaped his understanding of trauma’s impact on the brain, its common patterns and manifestations, and how often people don't recognize the implications of trauma in their own life. He discusses major challenges in recognizing trauma, including the lack of biomarkers in psychiatry and psychology, as well as the misguidance of the mental health system in targeting symptoms as opposed to root problems. He talks about shame as the biggest impediment to healing from trauma and offers solutions to how, as a society, we can start to change the stigma of mental health and allow more people to receive help. Finally, he concludes with a discussion about the potential role of psychedelics like psilocybin and MDMA in treating trauma. We discuss: Paul’s background and unique path to psychiatry [2:30]; A personal tragedy that shaped Paul’s understanding of trauma and resulting feelings of shame and guilt [5:30]; The current state of psychiatry training and need for improvement [20:15]; The over-reliance on outdated metrics and lack of attention to past trauma as impediments to patient care [28:30]; Defining trauma: various types, heterogeneity, and effects on the brain [34:30]; Importance of finding the roots of trauma and understanding the “why” [47:00]; The major challenge of recognizing trauma in patients [55:15]; How shame and guilt are barriers to treatment and healing [1:06:00]; How treating trauma compares to treating an abscess—a powerful analogy [1:11:30]; How evolutionary survival instincts create problems in modern society [1:15:15]; First step toward healing: overcoming the fear of talking about past trauma [1:19:00]; Shame: the biggest impediment to healing [1:25:15]; The antidote to shame and the need for discourse and understanding [1:34:15]; The emotional health component of healthspan [1:41:15]; How to reframe the conversation about mental health for a better future [1:52:00]; The growing impact of trauma on our society and the need for compassion [1:58:45]; Society’s antiquated way of treating manifestations of trauma rather than root issues [2:04:15]; Potential role of psychedelics like psilocybin and MDMA in treating trauma [2:11:15]; Parting thoughts and resources for getting help [2:16:30]; More. Sign Up to Receive Peter’s Weekly Newsletter Connect With Peter on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook & YouTube
Listen to this episode from The Art of Accomplishment on Spotify. Shame is nature’s way of training us to fit into our culture and society. Like an electric fence, it outlines the contours of the identity we’ve grown into and discourages us from straying outside the lines.This boundary around our comfort zone is often a poor match for ourselves and the world we live in. When we feel shame, our emotional experience stagnates, dampening our evolution and our enjoyment. People often find themselves stuck in the same shame cycles for years.In this episode, Joe and Brett examine the structure of shame and how to melt it on an intellectual, emotional, and somatic level.Transformed through awareness and love, our shame becomes a natural set of guide rails that help us live our life in alignment with our deepest values."All we're doing here is freeing the blocking of emotions by feeling into our body and creating love where there was abandonment."The following is the “wall of shame” referenced at the end of the episode, compiled from Brett’s journal and submissions from our listeners:Shame of being amateur/inexperienced...of missing opportunities...of being incompetent...of backing down or giving up...of not creating value...of being wrong, and then being hard-headed about it...of being an outsider who doesn't speak the lingo...of asking for help...of being 'transactional'...of not being present enough...of hovering anxiously...of having shame and hiding it...of being a 'hypocrite'...of being a know-it-all...of being helpless or clueless...of not 'deserving it'...of failing as a result of either over- or under-control...of upsetting people or scaring them with the truth...of showing hurt or disappointment...of not following my intuition...of not being clever, determined, or forthright...of not being ambitious, or of being too ambitious...of disagreeing...of telling people they are wrong...of being withdrawn...of needing people to change their behavior...of needing time...of thinking slowly...of not knowing how...of not feeling good when others are socializing…of not being enough (strong, present, resourceful, smart)…of freezing when action is required…of hurting the people I loveSend yours with the feedback form on our website to add to this list. Submissions will, of course, be anonymized. Learn more about our free workshops and online courses at artofaccomplishment.comWe invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at view.life/explore
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • This tenth-anniversary edition of the game-changing #1 New York Times bestseller features a new foreword and new tools to make the work your own. For over a decade, Brené Brown has found a special place in our hearts as a gifted mapmaker and a fellow traveler. She is both a social scientist and a kitchen-table friend whom you can always count on to tell the truth, make you laugh, and, on occasion, cry with you. And what’s now become a movement all started with The Gifts of Imperfection, which has sold more than two million copies in thirty-five different languages across the globe. What transforms this book from words on a page to effective daily practices are the ten guideposts to wholehearted living. The guideposts not only help us understand the practices that will allow us to change our lives and families, they also walk us through the unattainable and sabotaging expectations that get in the way. Brené writes, “This book is an invitation to join a wholehearted revolution. A small, quiet, grassroots movement that starts with each of us saying, ‘My story matters because I matter.’ Revolution might sound a little dramatic, but in this world, choosing authenticity and worthiness is an absolute act of resistance.”